Love

My mother was always dying of cancer.  Mrs. Kirby’s family was two houses down, and she was like my 2^nd mom.  Her two boys were older and we didn’t have much in common, but she was so loving and caring, and helped me feel whole.  One trip back to Baton Rouge, when my kids were in middle school, I took them to Mrs. Kirby’s house.  I hadn’t seen her for many years, and there was an old woman in her front yard working on the azalea bushes.  She turned, smiled, and rushed over giving me a bear hug, “Billy!”  I introduced my wife and kids, as she hugged everyone, and her love was back, but then I realized it had never really left.  Today be grateful for love that’s shared and never lost.

Hospice Experience 90's

His only family was a sister that lived in Florida.  I was working as a hospice volunteer and he’d been on my case load for about a year.  Most days, he’d sit under the carport of the senior home on a metal bench with his walker, and bible, waiting till an orderly would gently bring him inside for meals.  One of my last visits before he was confined to his bed, I pulled up in my Miata convertible, and said, “Carl how’d you like to go for a ride?” We strapped his walker on the back, and I had the honor of giving him the last car ride of his life, with his bible and huge smile.  Be mindful today of shared moments. 

Michael Murphy Wildfire

We all have songs that touch us deeply because of their almost spiritual connections with moments in our lives.  After a few years of an Army Europe tour I interviewed for the 10^th Special Forces and was accepted, but my brigade commander would not release me.  I was ticked, and gave up my active duty status in 74’.  Life had been planned around an Army career and now I wasn’t sure where life was going.  Michael Murphy released Wildfire in 75’ and it spoke to me about escaping the unsettled feelings of lost life dreams.  “On Wildfire we’re gonna ride / Gonna leave sodbustin’ behind / Get these hard times right on out of our minds / Riding Wildfire.  It still speaks to me today – getting hard times right out of my mind…   

NYC Moment

She had an ingenuous smile; she took my outstretched hand and held it gently in both her hands as she told me about the years she’d spent with her dad in and out of MD Anderson.  MD Anderson gave her wonderful memories of car trips to Houston and extra time with her dad as he fought cancer.  She smiled, thanked me one more time and gave me a warm hug.  My trip to NYC and speaking at the Harvard Club was filled with wondrous moments, but her words gave me the most joy.  This morning as I sorted through the pictures I’d taken on the trip, I found this shot with the meandering river and my superimposed watch, and her story spilled over me again.  Take time today for joy with others!    

Harvard Club Message

Yesterday, as we flew down the Hudson, and NYC began to build I could feel my excitement grow.  Today I will wave the MD Anderson, National Wellness, and worksite wellness flags at the Harvard Club in the heart of midtown Manhattan at an event for CEOs.  My message will be simple; worksite wellness is a business sustainability strategy that works!  Companies all over the world are at a tipping point where their employees are more stressed out, older, sicker, fatter, and costing more.  But wellness offers a solution that goes beyond ROI.  Wellness is about individuals being more responsible, accountable, and committed to healthier lives, which translates into being more productive at work and having the energy to have a life after work. 

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More Alive

Yesterday, John from the nurse counseling center and I shared a table at the nurse recruitment fair. What I remember most was the student nurse from the Ukraine. She briefly talked about her concerns for the safety of her family. She shared her feelings in a way that you knew she was scared, but had faith. You could see it in her eyes, and feel it in her words. How many times have I agonized over life pain, but stayed away from the feelings that linger like wounds and never heal. I walked to my bicycle awed by the experience that had opened me up to feelings around possibilities unfolding, and rode home in the cold wind feeling so much more alive. Today, be more alive through your feelings.

Rhythm of Your Soul

This weekend we had a list of errands to complete, and Sunday with half the list complete we headed out with 4 stops and the GPS voice as our guide. Mid-afternoon we were in the green store New Living; MaryBeth was picking out paint, and I was trying out organic mattresses. When we left the store both of us had trouble remembering what was next. We’d rushed through our list all weekend getting lots done as we hurried on to each next moment, but getting more out of flow with each new step. Melody Beattie in her book, Journey to the Heart, reminds us that hurry never catches up with itself; it only adds strain and stress to moments we race blindly past never getting to enjoy. This week, step to the rhythm of your soul.